Originally written on 11/9/2006
This is a message I received several years back when I was a moderator for a Christian forum. My response follows.
hey whats up Im sam.. and Ive read alot of what you had to say about being slaves to sin. Well that made me think b/c its something ive been struggling with for a while now. Now,I don’t even know you so you may think I’m strange for telling you this but.. you of all people from what I’ve read, may be able to help me out.
I believe that when I first felt God change my life around I may have been given a “holy spirit” I think this because I’d be sitting there and if I’d hear anyone curse it felt like I got kicked in the stomach and I’d have to walk out of the room. I feel like that may have been the holy spirit in my life. Not too long after that though.. things changed and I’ve never felt it to intensly I wonder If I still even have it or if thats what it was to begin with. Maybe I’m fooling myself because I’m so eager and desperate to make myself think I’m one of Gods chosen people..I dont know I’m confused.. not only that but- I’ve been a slave to sin.. alot lately even if I try to not do it somehow I always slip up. I’ll get mad at myself afterwards.. bc I keep doing the same things. I dont know what to do I pray about it and I cant even ask for forgiveness cause theres a chance I’ll do it again..so whattt kinda advice do you have for someeone like me? 🙂
My beloved sister in Christ,
I want to send you this uplifting message of encouragement. I do not think you to be weird or anything for sending me a message for I believe that God leads us. He may have leaded you to me for me to give you a message you need to hear.
According to my understanding of Scripture, we are given the Holy Spirit upon accepting Christ as our Savior. Different doctrines lean different ways on this, but it is common belief that the Holy Spirit is given to new believers. This is based on Acts 2:38.
Now, John 16:7 says “Nevertheless I tell you the truth; It is expedient for you that I go away: for if I go not away, the Comforter will not come unto you; but if I depart, I will send him unto you.” Jesus is talking here. He is speaking to the disciples after His resurrection but before He went up to be with the Father. He is saying that He has to leave so that the Comforter, which is another name for the Holy Spirit, can come and dwell with us.
This Comforter serves several purposes.
For one, He is the One that gives us discernment between right and wrong—sin and righteousness (John 14:26, 1 Corinthians 2:13). Some people call it their “conscience”. However, we, as believers, understand that human nature is selfish and nothing natural in our bodies desires restraint in selfish actions or submission to authority. To consciously think whether something is wrong or not implies that there is something other than our own intellect living inside us, for we want, as Christians, to do what is right. This is proof of the Holy Spirit living inside us.
Another function He serves is the enabling power of God to do the things He leads us to do, and shun the things He tells us to stay away from. Just as Jesus had the ability to raise Himself from the dead (John 10:17), that same power, which comes through the Holy Spirit, dwells in us (Romans 8:11). Through Him, we have the ability to overcome the things in our life that hold us down. Any strongholds or addictions—He enables us to stop. Any sin that continually brings us back in submission to sin—He can give us the strength to overcome, for the same power that raised Christ from the dead lives in us.
He also serves to give us the words to say when we are not sure what to say (Mark 13:11, Luke 12:12). When we are in a situation and do not know what to say, He will lead us to speak the words that God would have us to say. No matter the situation. We just have to be willing to speak them forth. For death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21), and our words have the ability to change circumstances if our faith is strong enough to believe.
He also is our communication medium to God. God is a spirit and we must communicate with Him in the spirit (John 4:24). Our praise, our worship, our requests, our complaints, and our petitions—our prayers—are through the Holy Spirit. For this reason, Hebrews 4:16 tell us that we can boldly come to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. It is also through the Holy Spirit that God communicates to us. He can give us an encouraging word, lead us to where He wants us to go, speak the things He would have us to speak, and tell us the things we need to hear. Through the Holy Spirit, God reveals to us our purpose, our calling, and our gifting that He had for us before the foundations of the earth (Ephesians 1:4).
Jeremiah 29:11 says; “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
I believe you should pray for discernment. If you do, or have, felt something as tangible in the flesh as the feeling of being kicked in the stomach when someone cusses around you, it could mean several different things. It could have been conviction. If that were the case, I would think that would have been revealed to you at the time it happened.
It could have been the Holy Spirit nudging to do something or say something, and out of disobedience, that sensation came forth.
It could be that the demonic presence that was associated with those partaking in the cursing was trying to attach itself on you. I would say that if you ever feel as if there is a demonic presence near or around you, simply call the name of Jesus out, and you will be surprised at the results. When someone first told me this, I though it was hokey. However, I actually tried it and it worked.
If I were you, I would also say something when people curse around you; make sure they know you do not like it. You would be surprised the result merely voicing your opinion on something like that can influence the situation. You have to keep in mind that you are a daughter of the Almighty God, and you do not have to live around garbage and filth. We are ambassadors of God and if they would not curse in front of God, why should they curse in front of you? Sometimes, we have to demand respect. Not out of arrogance, for that is not godly, but out of the understanding that we have been adopted into a royal (the most royal, actually) family (Romans 8:14-17).
If the intensity of the conviction lessens, it is because you are becoming complacent with whatever the conviction is against. I would recommend reevaluating your prayer life, your allotted time spent in the Word of God, and the ratio of time you spend with other believers that are strong in the faith verse the ones that are not (this includes non-Christians).
Church is an institute established by God, not for His benefit, but for our own. No one is called by God to be a lone ranger. He calls us to be others-minded. He is very community-oriented. The church is to give us guidance, to teach us the Word of God and how we should live, and to provide accountability.
Even though we have teachers and preachers and pastors, I would recommend having your own study of the Bible for yourself, if you do not already have one, for you learn more if you read for yourself because you find the things you do not understand, which you can then bring to the teachers and preachers who can help explain it to you.
If you do not already have an accountability partner (someone who is strong in the faith that you are around a good bit to help keep you from sin), then I would recommend finding one. For the best result, find someone of the same sex to avoid temptation and to have someone you are more comfortable sharing personal issues with.
As far as the post I have on having to sin, I want to state that I did not post it to bring condemnation, but empowerment to the Body of Christ. There are many Christians who see their sin, and think that it is a normal part of life and just accept it, which is wrong. There are some who feel that it is normal to have sin in their life because “everyone else does” which also is wrong. There are some who feel that there is no hope to combat sin, so they just accept the defeated life they have, thinking there is nothing to be done about it. Jesus died to free us from sin, yet we still live the life we lived before. The difference between Christians and non-Christians is conviction. But, with conviction comes the power to overcome. However, no one teaches that. That was the point of my whole post.
I don’t want you to get the wrong idea—the only way to stand in spiritual warfare, which is the battle against sin, is to put on spiritual armor and to be armed with spiritual weapons.
Ephesians 6:11-18 –
11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. 14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—
My friend, I hope this, even though it is rather length, is helpful to you.
In His name,